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Support Adoptive Families

Perhaps you have a heart for adoption but don’t feel called to adopt yourself? There are many ways you can support adoption without adopting. Adoptive families face unique challenges, and they deeply appreciate friends or family members who come alongside them in their journey. Even small gestures of support can make a world of difference as they navigate the joys and difficulties of welcoming an adopted child into their lives.

International adoption has changed significantly over the past decade. Today, children joining families from around the world are more likely to be over five years old. Many children are even in their teenage years. These children bring with them life experiences that can include trauma. This trauma comes from from their birth families or from living in institutional settings, often, both.   

They come with their personalities, beliefs, and identities already partially or fully formed, and their arrival signals just the beginning of the adoption journey. 

Supporting Families Through the Challenges of Adoption 

Adoption truly starts when the family arrives home with their adopted child. Amid the joy and excitement, a complex adjustment period begins. Families face real challenges as they work to understand and support their new child. Siblings may struggle to adjust, parental relationships are tested, and the adopted child often faces a profound culture shock. They are adjusting to new sights, sounds, smells, and languages—factors that can trigger past trauma responses. Adopted children may have trouble connecting, sometimes rejecting their new family members or struggling to bond with siblings. This period of adjustment can be demanding. Thus, it is when families need the most support from their friends, communities, and loved ones. 

So, how can you help adoptive families? 

  1. Make a Meal or Start a Meal Train: Providing meals can immensely help families navigate these first few months. Organize a meal train or gift a Grubhub card for a few worry-free nights. 

  1. Offer Respite Care for Siblings: Help create a safe space for siblings who may feel challenged by the family’s new dynamics. Offer to spend time with them, allowing parents to focus on helping the adopted child adjust. 

  1. Give Parents Time to Connect: Supporting the parental relationship is crucial. Offer to babysit so parents can enjoy a date night or take a needed break. 

  1. Help With Everyday Tasks: Easing the burden of everyday tasks, like laundry or running errands, can provide a break for the adoptive parent, allowing them to focus on connecting with their new child.   

  1. Educate Yourself and Be Present: Understanding the complexities of older child adoption helps you be there for your friend on a deeper level. In addition, listening and offering empathy during tough times can make a world of difference. 

  1. Offer Any Professional Help You Can Provide: If you have any special education or teaching experience, have raised a child with special needs or have navigated social services, your friend can greatly benefit from your expertise when enrolling their child and starting the IEP or 504 process.  

  1. Sponsor Cultural Activities: Consider funding a cultural summer camp, or activity for the adopted child. This allows them to connect with their heritage and feel more grounded in their new home. 

  1. Fund Parent Support Programming: Sponsor parent support programming such as Trust Based Relational Intervention classes. TBRI empowers families with strategies to create healing, trusting relationships. 

  1. Help Fund a Heritage Trip: As children grow, many adoptive families plan heritage trips to help adopted children stay connected to their birth culture. Your support can help make this possible. 

  1. Start a Support Group: If there isn’t an adoption support group at your church or in your community, consider starting one. This provides a safe space for adoptive families to share their journey with others who understand. 

Note: While active support can be invaluable, some families prefer a more passive approach. These families value independence and appreciate a simple message like, “I’m here if you need anything.” It’s a way for them to know who to reach out to when and if they need support without feeling obligated. When reaching out, ask if your friend would prefer active or passive support to best respect their needs.

Any gesture, big or small, can have a profound impact on an adoptive family’s journey, helping them thrive through this period of change. As families face the joys and challenges of older child adoption, knowing their community is behind them can be a powerful reminder that they’re not alone. 

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GiGi Pleet

Adoption Program Specialist

GiGi Pleet joined CCAI in 2014 as our China Applications Specialist. She rejoined the team in 2022 after taking a few years off to spend time with her family.  GiGi and her husband have adopted three beautiful daughters from China who are the joy and purpose of their lives.  GiGi is passionate about adoption and furthering CCAI’s mission to find loving parents and permanent homes for as many children as possible and to continue reaching out to children left behind.  When she is not working, you can find her spending time with her girls in the beautiful mountains of Colorado or on an adventure to a new, faraway place.
 
Joined CCAI:  Originally 2014 – 2020, rejoined 2022
 
Bucket List Item:  To see all Seven Wonders of the World 

Contact Information

gigi@ccaifamily.org

(303) 850-9998 ext. 300

Emily Straut

The Park Administrative Assistant

Emily was adopted through CCAI in 2002!  Having always admired the ways that the organization continued to support families even after adoption, she began working at The Park last year because she wanted to be more involved in the adoption community and according to her, “It’s been a blast so far!”

Emily is majoring in environmental science at MSU Denver and hopes to help mitigate the causes and effects of climate change. In her free time, she like to practice guitar, play video games, watch movies, and spend time with her friends and family. 

Bucket List: Visit every province in China!

Contact Information

emily@theparkcommunity.org

(303) 221-6688 ext. 170

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Ivy Buchanan

The Park Adoptee Program Coordinator

Ivy has a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Production Design for Film and Theater with a minor in Studio Art. She had the opportunity to study abroad in London, England and Florence, Italy. After graduating, while visiting an orphanage in Kathmandu, Nepal she had a moment of realization and knew she wanted to work in the adoption community. After some prior experience in post-adoption and nonprofit management, she came to The Park and is really enjoying focusing on and being involved with offering lifelong support for adoptees and the adoption community.

Ivy was adopted from Kazakhstan at 18-months old and is proud of her adoptee identity and her adoptive family. She is passionate about sharing the stories of the amazing people in the adoption community and helping adoptees celebrate their identities. Her lifelong best friend was adopted from China through CCAI. 

In her free time, she enjoys making art (she is working on a series of sculptural paintings of poached animal species), trying new food, catching up with friends, reading, and being with family. She loves to travel whenever possible.

Joined CCAI: 2023

Top Bucket List Items:

  • A trail ride through “Middle Earth” in New Zealand
  • Volunteering for a few weeks at Best Friends Animal Sanctuary
  • Sleeping in a hammock on a beach

Contact Information

ivy@theparkcommunity.org

(303) 221-6688 ext. 205

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Colorado Expenses

ExpenseAmountPmt MethodPay ToDue
Application Fee$250Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAIApplication submission
Child Abuse Record Search$35/FamilyCheckCO Dept of Human ServiceApplication submission
IAAME Monitoring & Oversight Fee$500Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAI (Sent to IAAME)After App Approval
First Program Fee (Includes Home Study)$5,700Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAIAfter App Approval
CBI/FBI Fingerprint Search$39.50 per personMoney OrderColorado Bureau of InvestigationAfter App Approval
USCIS Filing & Fingerprinting$775 plus $85/adultCheck/Money OrderUS Dept. of Homeland SecurityUpon I-800A submission
Dossier PreparationApprox. $450-$900Check/Money OrderSecretary of State(s), Chinese Consulate(s)As preparing Dossier
Second Program Fee$5,050Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAIDossier Submission
CCCWA Fee$1,270Check/ACH WithdrawalCCCWA via CCAIDossier Submission
Third Program Fee$5,500Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAIPrior to receiving child match acceptance letter
CCCWA Post Adoption Translation Fee$300Check/ACH WithdrawalCCCWA via CCAIPrior to receiving child match acceptance letter
Court Validation Deposit$200CheckCCAIPrior to receiving child match acceptance letter
Post Adoption Deposit (Refundable)$450Check/ACH WithdrawalCCAIPrior to receiving child match acceptance letter
Visa to enter China$140 (plus courier fee)Check/Credit CardChinese Consulate via a courier/travel agencyApproximately one month before travel to China
US Domestic & International Airfare$1,000 – $2,000 per traveler (adopted child over 2 requires full ticket)Credit CardA travel agency/airline of your choice

Approximately 7-10 days prior to China departure

In China Travel & AccommodationsApprox. $4,000-$4,400 for two adultsACH WithdrawalCCAI (wired to China)Approximately 7-10 days prior to China departure
Adoption Registration and Notarization$800 – $1,000CashLocal government in ChinaIn China
Orphanage Donation(Voluntary)Cash or WireOrphanageIn China
Child’s Passport$100-$150CashLocal passport agencyIn China
Food$700 – $800 per coupleCash/Credit CardHotel(s), restaurant(s)In China
Child Physical & Photo$130-$150CashClinicIn Guangzhou, China
Child U.S. Entry Visa$325Cash or CheckU.S. ConsulateIn China
Court Validation Fee$167CheckCounty CourtAfter U.S. Return
Child’s Colorado Birth Certificate$37.75CheckColorado Vital Statistics OfficeAfter U.S. Return
Lutheran Family Services$250CheckLutheran Family Services via CCAIWhen Home Study is approved by CCAI